The Danger of Denial

This article is another gem from Kathy Krajco on Narcissism. It is part of my blogging about emotional, verbal or mental abuse this month on this as well as my other blog to raise awareness about non-physical Domestic Violence.

"Where were you when I was burned and broken?
While the days slipped by from my window watching
Where were you when I was hurt and helpless?
Because the things you say
and the things you do
surround me
While you were hanging yourself
on someone else's words
Dying to believe in what you heard
I was staring straight into the shining sun"
Coming Back to Life - PINK FLOYD/The Division Bell

But just a note: Apply this to the current political correctness and denial of the DANGER of the Islamofascist tide in the U.S. - and you may just get the big wakeup call you needed.

FACING FACTS
by Kathy Krajco

One reason why the victims don't face facts about a narcissist is because we don't want to face the fact that we mean nothing to them. The ego doesn't want to know that. For, being valued by another at absolute zero is a degrading value judgement.

When this is someone in your family, that fact is traumatic. We think about how much we have loved them, how often we have stuck up for them, how many times in the past we sacrificed for them. And here all along they cared NOTHING for us in return!

They just fed off us like a parasite, taking us for a sap.

Outside the rain fell dark and slow
While I pondered on this dangerous
but irresistible pastime
I took a heavenly ride through your silence
I knew the moment had arrived
For killing the past and coming back to life
Coming Back to Life - PINK FLOYD/The Division Bell

This is why denial is so dangerous. Facing facts, no matter how unpleasant, is better. Because when you do address the issue in your mind, you see who is degraded by the narcissist's refusal to relate humanly to human beings.

Not the human beings, that's for sure.

Knowing that makes you able to accept the truth about them.

And when you accept the truth about them, you break the cycle of abuse.

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