Debbie Does Education? With my apologies to Sesame Street: One of these things is just like the other. One of these things tries to hide her hate. Can you see which thing is just like the other? And not a victim of hate! When an abusive personality is exposed they invariably do two things: 1. Start a smear campaign against the truth teller. this is in order to make sure no one gets to know the truth teller and/or the truth because they need these 'bystanders' to further their abusive agenda. 2. Play victim. Occasionally the abuser will pretend to be helpless or will act persecuted in order to manipulate others into helping them. Here, the abuser thinks that if he doesn't get what he wants, he is the victim; and he uses the disguise of victim to get back at or make fools of others. Abusers will often claim to be the victim in order to avoid being held accountable by law enforcement. 3. Blame Shift The abuser shifts responsibility for his actions away from himself and onto o...