BARBARA'S TCHATZKAHS

This is what happens when abuse victims (ANY kind of abuse, and any religious or cultural background) are silenced!: By SUSAN EDELMAN and KIRSTEN FLEMING A Brooklyn newlywed who jumped to his death from a hotel balcony the night after his wedding was tormented by memories of being sexually molested as a Jewish student, sources say. After joyfully singing and dancing at their lavish celebration in Williamsburg on Nov. 3, Motty Borger, 24, bared his secret anguish to his bride, Mali Gutman, the next day -- and the revelation caused a strain, a source close to the family told The Post. "That entire day he discussed it with her. He told her the story of his life, how he felt so awful and he couldn't go near her," the source said. The couple had met just last July, after a matchmaker set them up. "When he got married, he realized he couldn't face up to it, and he told his wife that he needed help." The stunned bride responded, "So, why did you m...

Cheney creates his own reality: U.S. 'succeeded' in Iraq Former Vice President Dick Cheney said in his first television interview since leaving office that the Iraq invasion was "worth doing" and the U.S. succeeded with its goals - a view that is shared by few others. Comment: No doubt he refers to the minority of pathological individuals who consider success the over one million dead Iraqis, almost five thousand dead US troops and the complete destruction of an entire country. "I think it was absolutely the right thing to do and I think when history reviews this period 10 or 20 years hence, what will be significant was that we did, in fact, accomplish what we set out to do," he said. "The other things are interesting and important but, you know, they're secondary to the basic result." Cheney said on CNN's "State of the Union with John King": "We have succeeded in creating, in the heart of the Middle East, a democratic...

I talk about the character disordered so much and see so much of this disorder in those around us - especially in the political realm - these days I thought I'd repost writing goddess, the late Kathy Krajco's piece on 'how to make' a narcissist. While most narcissists are male, some can be female (I should know - I was raised by one). And no, I am not one. I do have problems but this isn't one of them. ~~~~~~ by Kathy Krajco The reddest red flag is perverted behavior. Leave out the sexual connotation: I use that word perverted because it means "thoroughly twisted" or "turned backwards." Any act can be perverted. Perverted behavior is the extreme opposite of what is called for. This is behavior that goes against nature, behavior that makes you want to pinch yourself. In other words, it's a surprise, a shock, the last thing you expected. Like maybe everyone in that classroom was sitting up straight with all eyes riveted upon Teacher and you cou...