BARBARA'S TCHATZKAHS

Not with an abusive pathological, it doesn't! Simple Case of Bad Guy Attacking Good Guy by Kathy Krajco Did you ever hear the saying "It takes two to Tango"? That's a common saying here in the United States, at least some parts of it. But I'll bet every language has a figure of speech that means the same thing. It takes two to Tango: That's what you're supposed to say when gossipping about interpersonal problems between two other people. The only interest is in coming to agreement with your gossips on who is to blame for it. Because then you are bestowing judgement on people, and that feels good. The doctrine firmly to be believed is that, no matter what the bad guy did, the good guy is partly to blame. I think this is construed as (of all things) "fairness" = unfairly (arbitrarily) placing blame on a person without one bit of evidence - just this almost religiously held slogan "It takes two to Tango." As in the ballroom danc...

While approval from the 50-member board is  not needed to build the center, the vote may indicate how residents of lower Manhattan feel about the idea. "The community board is a good barometer of the sentiment of the people in that neighborhood," said Manhattan Borough President Scott Stringer. "Many of the people on the Community Board are people who stayed in the neighborhood after 9/11, who had to rebuild this area," he said. "These are good people with good instincts." The board's 12-member Financial District committee unanimously voted in favor of the project earlier this month. "From my perspective, there's not a lot to dislike about the project," said Ro Scheffe, 59, a member of the committee who runs a communications firm and lives three blocks from Wall St. Foes - including some members of the board - argue an Islamic community center so close to Ground Zero is insensitive to the families of people who died on 9/11. T...

by Kathy Krajco I, for one, am sick of the insult to our intelligence in narcissist sympathizers trying to hand people the line that the poor, poor narcissist doesn't mean to hurt anyone, that they don't know what they are doing, that it just sort of happens, that they think they are behaving normally. Your brain must be dead if you think that people who abuse ONLY ON THE SLY - behaving like angels when there are witnesses - don't know exactly what they're doing. To the bullet-headed narcissist sympathizers, I say, "Try real, real hard to understand. Bend a brain cell or two. Repeat to yourself 100 times that "He abuses only in the dark. When other people are watching, he acts like he's full of loving kindness even toward the very one he abuses in the dark." Maybe if you repeat that simple fact to yourself 100 times, it will sink in. Think. Think real, real hard what it means. Really work at lifting that mental weight. Come on, you can do it. If you t...

FROM: NO QUARTER: MSNBC carried a blip of President Obama speaking in New York at a fundraiser. Sadly, the President is up to his old tricks. Remember when he was at a hoity-toity fundraiser in San Francisco and complained of Pennsylvania voters “clinging to God and guns”? That didn’t go over so well. Remember Gates-gate where Obama declared that “the police acted stupidly” before he knew all the facts? Here, in the name of passing health care he says that “Democrats are an opinionated bunch” likely referring to the trouble he’s been having with the Blue Dogs. He said “y’all thinking for yourselves.” Then he says that Republicans basically “do what they’re told.” His robotic arm movements to make fun of “the other party” are really a sight to behold. When is a President supposed to make fun of American citizens — some of whom actually voted the man into office. See for yourselves… Interesting however, is that while he pretends to praise the fact that Democrats are “thinking for themsel...

What's it going to take for the Kool-Aid numbed lemmings who voted for this guy to WAKE UP!! This is Moammar! The mastermind behind the 1988 bombing of Pan Am 103 that sent many Americans and some of them just COLLEGE STUDENTS to their death above Lockerbie, Scotland. The same guy the late President Reagan wanted taken out. Obambi bows to the King of Saudi Arabia, schmoozes with Abbas and now he's glad-handing with Khadafy. You made a horrible mistake America. Obambi is a manipulator at best, a Kumbaya-cowboy in the middle of it and hopelessly naive at worst. What are we going to do to defend our country with this bow & scrape appeaser at the helm? President Obama shakes hands with Libyan leader Khadafy By Kenneth R. Bazinet President Obama and Libyan dictator Moammar Khadafy shook hands Thursday, infuriating families of victims in the 1988 bombing of Pan Am Flight 103 by Libyan intelligence agents. The grip-and-grin was caught on camera during the G-8 summit of world ...

Michael D'Antuono seems to have backed out of unveiling his blasphemous portrait of Obama as a Christ figure. It would seem that D'Antuono may have failed to consider fully the ramifications of using sacred imagery as he did. Please contact him and thank him for canceling tomorrow's unveiling. His email address is thetruth@dantuonoarts.com . Here's the press release: PRNewswire -- Painter Michael D'Antuono has canceled the planned public unveiling of his latest work "The Truth" at NYC's Union Square Park on President Obama's 100th day in office due to overwhelming public outrage. The artist's decision was based in part on thousands of emails and phone calls; online blogs and other public commentary received in the first 48 hours following its release. The painting which was first made public on Friday depicts President Obama appearing much like Jesus Christ on the Cross; atop his head, a crown of thorns. Behind him, the dark veil being lifted ...

Origins of Chronic and Debilitating Pain Remain Unclear for Many Sufferers By DAN CHILDS Cynthia Toussaint was a ballerina. She was no stranger to the aches, pains and occasional injuries that came with the trade. So when the pain from an injury to a right hamstring wouldn't subside, Toussaint, then 21, did what she could to endure it. After all, she had auditions to attend -- in particular, a promising role in the musical Fame. When the burning, unrelenting pain was too much to bear, however, she sought a doctor's opinion. "I was told that I wouldn't dance for eight weeks and I thought, 'No, they're wrong,'" she recalls. But the pain would last for much longer than eight weeks. For months it persisted. A year and a half after the pain in her right leg started, she began to experience a similar pain in her left leg. Six and a half years after that, the pain had spread to both arms. The spread of her condition was not always so gradual. One morning, she...

This speaks for itself! From HEIDI LI'S POTPOURRI Watch the video here . Listen to The New Agenda's executive director Amy Siskind succeed as she raises pertinent, relatively mild objections, to the Ms. Magazine cover for its special inauguration issue. Then listen to Ms. Magazine's executive editor Katherine Spillar as she first a) dodges the issue, which is not whether men can be feminists, but whether there is any basis for referring to this man, President-elect Obama, as "what a feminist looks like" and then b) tells people to read the magazine so as to understand the cover (read = buy the magazine) and then c) evidently indicated to the CNN anchors that subscriptions to the magazine are up because of the inauguration cover, and thus the cover was a good idea. Successful covers do not require a magazine to explain or justify their meaning. For example, most thoughtful criticisms of The New Yorker's satirical cover of the Obamas faulted the cover for being...

Don't get me wrong. I can't stand President Bush. But I think many Americans miss the point of what a massive insult shoes being thrown at him was in Iraqi culture. During a Sunday press conference in Baghdad, an angry Iraqi journa list hurled insults, and his shoes, at President Bush. According to the New York Times, "Hitting someone with a shoe is considered the supreme insult in Iraq." Why is that? Because they're so dirty. The degree of insult seems to be an idiosyncratic cultural development, as opposed to one that derives from clear textual sources. There's no particular mention in the Quran or any of the Hadith of shoe-throwing or debasement of enemies by exposing them to feet. And historical origins for the tradition are not easily found. However it started, Arabs—and perhaps Iraqis in particular—throw their shoes to indicate that the target is no better than dirt. The foot has special meaning in many societies. Most cultures see the act of subjecti...

Michelle Obama comes off to me like a thug -- a baby mommy with a chip on her shoulder and more attitude than my tween children. Her thesis from Princeton and her rubber stamping of the misogyny against Hillary. Girl... PLEASE! The idea of her in the White House... oy.... Barack Obama believes his wife, Michelle Obama, will convince women to vote for her sexist husband. I quote CBS2 News Chicago: CBS 2’s Dorothy Tucker reports Michelle Obama gave a speech Monday at the Palmer House Hilton, at an event called “Women for Obama.” But the message was clearly aimed at women for Hillary Clinton. Michelle Obama walked into the room to a standing ovation. Most of the people in attendance were longtime Barack Obama supporters, but the candidate’s wife made it clear she was here to court the new supporters. And she did so by praising her husband’s former opponent. “My husband is a better candidate because of her,” Michelle Obama said. “My daughters will look at themselves differently beca...

HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS & INFLUENCE PARISHONERS My Nana, of blessed memory, used to tell me, "Barbara, even a worm will turn." What she meant was, given enough time, power and sense of entitlement - some people will even turn on those who were once their friends. My Nana was a formidable woman in her own right and she was on point with that observation. It was she, who was a devout Catholic, who got our family to break the tradition of no meat on Friday - well before the Church said O.K. And I watched her mince no words with a Monseignor who was angry that yours truly was actually reading the Bible as a teenager. We see it in Judaism, we see it in politics, we see it in everyday life. Sometimes you just can't please people - the more you try to make things right or do something good for them - the nastier and more accusatory they get. Pope Benedict XVI is on a roll and has really been working overtime to bring back the good old days. I am just waiting for a new In...