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I do. Me. COMMON SYMPTOMS OF ABUSE SURVIVORS Victoria Polin, MA, ATR, LCPC and Gail Roy, MA, ATR, LCPC 1. Low self-esteem, feeling worthless. 2. Fear of abandonment and other abandonment issues. 3. Acting out behavior. Not knowing how to identify, process and or express intense feelings in more productive ways. 4. Unexplained fears of being alone at night, nightmares and/or night terrors. . . 5. Feeling overly grateful/appreciative from small favors by others. 6. Boundary issues: lack of, needing to be in control, power issues, fear of losing control... 7. Eating disorders including: anorexia, bulimia, compulsive over-eating etc... 8. Headaches, arthritis and/or joint pain, gynecological disorders, stomach aches and other symptomology. 9. Unexplained anxiety/ panic. 10. Extreme guilt/ shame. 11. Obsessive/compulsive behaviors (not necessarily Obsessive/Compulsive Disorder). 12. History of being involved in emotionally, psychological and/or physically violent relationships (emotionally...

by the late, forever great Kathy Krajco It's easy to take an honest look at someone you have something against. And though i have no time for blaming the victim, those of us who have been victimized by narcissists must take an honest look at ourselves. Why is it so hard to face facts? Why do we remain in denial so long, and thus play the fool? People on the outside are flabbergasted by the abuse the victim takes. But it is really very easy to understand. To face facts, one fact you must face is that you mean nothing to the narcissist. Zip, zero, zilch, nada. You are nothing but a punching bag. A thing, an object he (ab)uses to make himself feel good. If he breaks you, that's nothing because you are just an object to a narcissist or psychopath. That's humiliating. Who wants to admit that they are worth nothing to someone so precious to them? It's a spear right through the heart. And stupid conventional thinking views value backwards. True, if a thing is a commodity for e...

RAPE VICTIMS ARE "STUPID"... ...according to the judge in the article below. There is no doubt in my mind that our legal system is flawed. Far, far too often cases go untried, perpetrators uncharged because the police and/or the judges and D.A.s don't want to do anything. They are trying to keep things below the radar until the next election cycle. Or they don't care because the case isn't high profile enough. The Megan Meier MySpace Suicide case is a prime recent example. I know this because for a number of years, when I was a freelance paralegal, I spent a lot of time downtown, sitting in courtrooms waiting for moments with a judge or clerk to get papers signed or orders issued. I would see the impatience, the not-listening, the rudeness... and not always from the Defendants. Some judges would show up at 11am - take a 2 hour lunch at noon - and be gone by 3pm. Zoom! So much for jurisprudence. It just confirmed my decision not to go to law school after pas...