BARBARA'S TCHATZKAHS

It seems there may be no justice for my late therapist, Kathryn Faughey; as you can see in the below article. It has been over a year since Dr. Faughey was brutally and needlessly murdered by David Tarloff... and I am not over it. I don't think I ever will be. But as Dr. Faughey said to me many times, "some things you don't get over. you adapt and move forward." So I can say, yes I have. And I hope your family & friends have too. I have attempted to sit down and write a note to her husband about the 15 years of care she gave me. I can't do it. (If you are reading this Mr. A - I have tried a number of times in the last 13 months. I think it's just a form of continuing denial on my part and I apologize.) It took me months to remove her phone number from my cell and her email from my contacts. And still many many times I have stopped and said to myself, "I need to call Dr. Faughey"... then I remember. I still have what I can guess is more ...

As a victim & survivor myself, I know that these do not work with a hardened abuser, destructive narcissist, anti-social or sociopath. Abusers RARELY, if ever, change. They may be worth a try. However, I have made some comments to this "overbroad" and overly simplistic article to deal with Verbal Abuse. I also ask that everyone take a look at THIS ARTICLE as well. 3 strategies to avoid arguments. Well, the strategies to avoid arguments drew arguments ... so, I thought it best to respond for the sake of creating peace in the world .... (FYI - arguing with an abuser it not a fair argument. The abuser must win & will do so at ANY COST! Peace is the LAST thing on their minds! They only care about winning and 'being right.') I received the following note: "I have a very hard time accepting how you would encourage someone to accept verbal abuse. Whether or not the spouse erred in saying or doing something, that person still does not deserve to be degrade...