BARBARA'S TCHATZKAHS

Cluster B Personality Disorders ( Sociopathy/Moral Insanity , Narcissism , Borderline , etc) are some of the embodiments of evil , in my opinion. Yes, its a mental illness - genetic or acquired, I am not sure which - but that is no reason to feel sorry. For instance, one of my favorite Cluster B targets - Obama - showed his true colors in the last year or so. Actually to anyone like me who's spent a lifetime being victimized by these people and then BLAMED when I speak the truth or stand up for myself - the subtle stuff becomes very very obvious. The pain of being hurt by one of these people? It takes forever, if at all, to heal from. They reach down your throat and yank your soul out at the root. And they laugh at how gullible you were and how it was 'partly your fault anyway.' Projection, minimizing, whitewashing, spin-doctoring. Sigh... how about the truth from these people? Nah - too much work and no fun for them & their superiority complexes. Ever wh...

Speaking out about the wrongdoings of people who abuse others, politicians and about my government has earned me some accusations of performing LASHON HARA . A wonderful commentary from Radical Torah however, throws it into a whole new light for me: (excerpts) Well, who do I know who loves rebuke? Let’s see. There’s — no, well, how about — no. Hmm. I think , didn’t — …uh, nope, not her either. Maybe..? No, nope. Well, I can’t really think of anyone I know who loves rebuke. But rebuking, that’s another story. I’m sure we can all think of lots of folks who are pretty into it. They swoop into your office on an already unpleasant Monday to let you know about some trivial thing that no one but them noticed. Or they call you up and sweetly tell you they told you so. Or — Hey, Mom, do I have to hear about that again? But surely, that’s not what the Torah is speaking of when it tells us this week, Leviticus 19:17: You shall not hate your brother in your heart; you shall surely rebuke...

Any of my readers know I am against blanket forgiveness. Forgiveness without the repentance of the person who hurt you - or you repenting to those you've hurt - is nothing. It's a "get out of jail free" card that will do nothing to heal the emotional, spiritual and psychological rift. It's bullpocky that I reject completely. Though your anger at someone else - does start to eat at your very soul. When I am completely disgusted & disappointed in someone - eventually I feel nothing. They become dead to me. Or, like my ex, his abuse numbed me to the point of feeling nothing but cordiality towards him. And a desire to work with him as politely as I could for the welfare of our children. But nothing else. No desire for revenge. Not hate or anger... just indifference. I abhor any ahavah ha-t'luyah b'davar : "love that is conditional." This is love that treats the other person or you, as an object. True love is unconditional because the oth...

Mine is being a real friend and not a "yes man." Mine is believing 2 wrongs don't make a right. Mine is not believing in revenge, hate or 'payback.' Even when maybe I should... "A real friend is someone who accept you for you, no strings attached. A real friend is someone who knows all the good and the not-so-good about you and still likes you. A real friend is someone who will do anything to help you in a crisis. A real friend is the person you call to share the happiness of the day or the frustrations of life, and listens though you may have said the same things a hundred times before. A real friend is a person who compliments your personality, challenges your choices, and accepts you regardless of the mistakes you make in life. Real friends are few in ones life and when you find one, return the favor and be a real friend back." Yes my 'blind spot' is believing in and doing anything for my friends (except lying) and people I care about - even ...

Yes, even the rich, educated and well-heeled do it. Blame shift, call each other nuts or crazy ('rhymes' with: psycho stalker or woman scorned). Can't people find anything better to do with the power of the internet? Like just telling the truth, speaking openly & honestly and maybe doing things to help other people. Guess that's too much to ask, huh? Cuckold's Internet Revenge Against Top Banker If you've visited sites like those run by New York magazine and the Observer over the past couple of months, you may have noticed, in the comments section, repeated instances of a message that begins, "Steve Ratner [sic]... has paid my wife $500,000.00 to leave me." If you saw these comments, you probably wondered what the hell was going on. Well, the Times this morning sheds precious little light on the situation because, get this, there is a Steven Rattner, he did sleep with that guy's wife and now, as a result of the angry ex-husband's smear ca...

Oh, Hamas!! You so crazy!! You have to "inflict revenge" but you say you want peace? You INITIATE firing kassams into Israel and sending suicide bombers to kill innocent Jews but you say you want a cease-fire? Playing the victim again? Bad Hamas, time out for you! I am hearing your words, but watching your actions Hamas... and you are full of CAMEL DUNG! Gaza’s embattled Hamas leaders are seeking a cease-fire after months of Israeli attacks and sanctions, going so far as to make an unprecedented appeal through the Israeli media, a Hamas official confirmed Wednesday. The overture, which the Hamas leader made Tuesday through an Israeli reporter, followed an especially bloody day in which the Israeli air force killed 12 militants, including a top commander. Despite calls for a cease-fire within his Cabinet, Israeli Prime Minister Ehud Olmert pledged to continue targeting the leaders of militant groups who fire rockets into southern Israel almost daily. Ismail Haniyeh, leader ...