BARBARA'S TCHATZKAHS

As many of you already know, I am not a fan of the current psychobabble 'forgive & forget' model of adult discourse. Some things are unforgiveable.     I am always willing to listen, discuss, open the door to considerate communication that doesn't attack or blame and of course - genuine apology that owns the behavior that caused the rift in the first place. No one should be expected to forgive without repentance by the perpetrator. No one. But blanket forgiveness? Sorry. That, in my humble opinion, is for suckers. excerpts From the political to the persona l, Americans are caught in an orgy of forgiveness. Failure to pardon, we're constantly admonished, will blight our lives. Now a psychotherapist counters that popular claim. You can refuse to absolve your lover, spouse, parent, sibling or friend, she declares, and still be emotionally healthy. Flip to any television station these days and chances are we'll be witness to some dramatic episode of fo...

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PARDON THE STUPIDITY! Aside from the death of 'poor' Farfur, Bush finally showing his true colors, Peanut-Brain Carter getting a degree (but staying stupid) and Vince McMahon's comments about "'Roid Rage" - I have to start this post of this week's outright stupidity by saying this: IF YOU DON'T WANT SOMEONE TO THINK YOU'RE A LOSER (or CHEATER or LIAR) THEN KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT. If its TRUE - you have no case - legally or socially. I liken this to the DV victims I work with who insist "...but he/she did it too " or "I never said/did that" or "everyone cheats... it's genetic ." ( insert inanity here and pardon my pukin'). In this case the woman was/is a "loser" and if she'd kept to herself - it would have all died down eventually - but noooooo.... Empty barrels continually make the worst noises, don't they? Dutch court denies suit of woman who claimed emotional damages after losing lottery (AM...