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If you have read my blog more than twice you know how I love fellow blogger, the late Kathy Krajco. Her writing at What Makes Narcissists Tick was stellar and consistently on point. I often refer abuse victims there who are trying desperately to make sense of the behavior of their abuser. They find answers and some semblance of closure when they have been cruelly abandoned and then blamed as being 'the one who ended things' or find that others have been told ' they are the abuser.' When they were little, my children had a couple picture books about a boy named David. David was always causing problems or being rude. Pictures included: David belching at the dinner table so loudly he blew out a candle; David looking innocent next to a freshly iced cake with his mouth covered with icing; David walking to school in just his underwear... you get the picture. At the bottom of a very funny picture would be the phrase "I didn't do it" or "I didn't m...

by Kathy Krajco It seems to me that a malignant narcissist can't help his or her temptations, predatory urges. Maybe they are the fruit of a lifetime of twisted thinking and therefore the narcissist's own fault ultimately. Maybe not. For example, if you are addicted to heroin, your desire for it today is the end of a path you chose to take and never repented from. We should understand how strong your temptation is, and we have no right getting up on a moral high horse with respect to you, because we don't have to resist such a strong temptation. But that's where understanding ends. You COULD quit. Many people do! Look how many people quit smoking for the minor reason that it became politically incorrect. Millions quit drinking annually. Multitudes give up a drug habit. Often without treatment or any 12-step program. So your addiction is your fault. Moreover, if for the money to get your next hit of heroin you murder somebody for the cash in their wallet, your temp...