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An EXCELLENT piece that needs no additional comments from me - I agree with every word. Been there, done that. By Patricia Lefave, ex mental patient At first, that may seem to ‘make no sense’. It is nevertheless true. What we experience in isolation and which is judged to be our ‘imagination’ is the reality of a semi distant relationship with a group or mob, acting it all out from a few feet away, while the individuals who make up the numbers of that mob perceive themselves as ‘hidden’ from an ‘inferior.’ That role definition, as defined by one of the group members as the starting point of the whole thing, is the original ‘switch’ that gets it all going. If it is not seen or questioned, it is kept going indefinitely. This is one of the most difficult realizations I had to have in this in order to make some sort of ‘sense’ of the experience as a whole. It is especially hard when virtually everyone involved in it fights AGAINST any revelation that would in any way implicate an...

In light of the many dog & pony shows going on with the Obama Camp, and the player's behavior in this show; as well as the words and attitudes of some of the bloggers, bots and MSM I read, I felt this post was very timely. It's from my friend Anna 's blog. Anna , like myself, suffered from being raised by a destructive narcissistic parent. I have yet to read any of her posts that I would even take exception with. I hope you get as much out of it as I do. Good Liars? Or Just Practiced Diversion Artists? Dr. Robert Hare tells us that psychopaths are not the good liars they are generally acclaimed as being. In his book " Without Conscience " in the chapter titled Words from an Overcoat Pocket he outlines the anomalies of the way psychopaths use language. More accurately, how they misuse language. And some really interesting reasons as to why. Please don't be distracted by my referring to Hare's work with psychopaths. The character-disordered have on...

by A. Valerious When we talk about someone who is in denial we believe what we are discussing is a psychological defense mechanism. To believe that a narcissist is using denial as a defense mechanism is to set yourself up to be manipulated and deceived. We need to examine the tactic of denial as something very different from the psychological defense of denial. Denial as a defense mechanism is how the mind copes emotionally in the fall-out of a catastrophic event, major loss, or with anxiety. The woman who finds herself suddenly widowed may deny for awhile that her husband is dead. Or she may simply feel numb and unable to cry for weeks or months. This is because she can't deal with all the emotions of loss and shock all at once. Denial as a defense is how our minds protect us from overwhelming situations that we aren't equipped at the time to deal with emotionally. This is something very different from denial as a tactic. George K. Simon, "In Sheep's Clothing", p...

The story that broke last year about the father, Fritzl, who imprisoned his daughter in a basement dunegon for 24 years and she had 7 children by him - as well as the sick details of his letting a few of those children upstairs - got my attention. I can't shake the horror of a father actually treating his own child in this way. I had a wonderful father. He had his flaws but inside he was a wonderful man who would never exploit anyone or hurt a fly. However, my other parent - was pathologically disordered. And my father (of blessed memory), my brother and myself were all changed forever from it. Wrapping our heads around these people there's only one explanation: Psychopathy aka Sociopathy. No empathy and maybe even no soul. The bad thing is guys like the above and scum like Scott Peterson, Osama binLaden and Honor Murderers make news. But, there are hundreds & thousands of them who may be next to you at the check out or in the cubicle next to you. Subcriminal who ...

HOW DO BRAINS GET DIFFERENT? by Kathy Krajco How on earth does one "demonize" a psychopath? If 20 times a day you think, "I love milk and all the milk in the world belongs to me," the little pathway of connecting brain cells that lights up to think that thought dumps transmitter substance into those connections 20 times a day. The amount of this chemical builds up, because it is being added to faster than it degrades. This is called MEMORY. It's what we LEARN with. Keep thinking 20 times a day, every day, "I love milk and all the milk in the world belongs to me." There will soon be so much transmitter substance between the connections along that pathway that it will take almost nothing to stimulate that thought. In other words, every time you see something white, it could make you think that thought. In other other words, the connections get touchy. See what I mean? You are acquiring a habit. There gets to be so much of that transmitter substance in th...

By William Polowniak, Ph.D. Fritz Perls a famous Jewish psychotherapist known for his founding of Gestalt therapy once said that refusal to communicate is the most toxic human behavior. I am convinced that he is right. Refusal to communicate really means refusal to listen and to enter into dialogue especially when we disagree. Usually people who refuse to communicate live their lives as “functional sociopaths.” That is, they are self-centered, they do as they please with total disregard for others and they indulge in subterfuge, self-delusion and see themselves as persecuted. Their delusions of self-persecution cause them to become angry manipulators. So why label people in “either or” categories as “toxic” or “nourishing” people? Labels themselves are dangerous and often unfair, but for the wise person they do help us see what to avoid. They help us to invest our energies in more productive ways. When we use labels, however, we must be aware that labeling others without caution is in ...

Hamas, Hezbollah, Islamofascists, The Religious Right, The Obama Administration or that person who harasses or harangues you offline or on. Bullies follow a pattern. A pattern that is a form of a personality disorder, of which the worst form is sociopathy. Sociopaths have no guilt, no shame, no empathy, nothing. They will stick by their closest friends and family (they have to because they need sycophants to bail them out all the time) and have no compassion for those they hurt. They only play-act as if they have human emotions (learned by watching others) because they can't feel. They don't have an anger problem - their problem is with YOUR anger. Heaven forbid you should be hurt or angry. If a sociopath raped someone, he'd be mad that she sought medical and legal attention. If a sociopath stole something, she'd be angry you called the police or even had the temerity to ask for your things back. If a sociopath hit you with their car, they'd be angry you rep...

cut them loose! Characteristics of a Psychopath/Abuser superficial charm self-centered prone to boredom deceptive behavior lying even when no lie is necessary conning & manipulative little remorse or guilt shallow emotional response callous lack of empathy predatory poor self-control sexually promiscuous early behavioral problems impulsive lifestyle irresponsible behavior blaming you or anyone else for their actions truly believes his own lies will turn his friends on you enlists others to harass you prone to stalking his ex ( though he will say she is stalking him ) Needs to only have one or two of these characteristics, so don't fool yourself!

When I read this article I didn't know whether to laugh or weep. This pathologically disordered man is COMPLETELY disconnected from reality, it seems. Sociopathic types believe that things are reality "BECAUSE THEY SAY SO." And far too many people fall for this because the abusive type just yells louder or becomes belligerent when they aren't believed. I tell all the abuse victims I coach, and I have said it here MANY MANY times: ALWAYS, ALWAYS: Watch their ACTIONS, NEVER believe their words!! If You're On an Aggregator - Click Here to View the Above View ...Says he hopes history sees him as liberator of millions Bush said that every day during his eight-year presidency he had consulted the Bible. After two wars, millions dead and the worst financial crisis in a decade, George W. Bush hopes history will see him as a president who liberated millions of people, who worked towards peace and who never sold his soul for political ends. "I'd like to be a pres...

I remember asking my late therapist a couple years ago, "am I just imagining I see pathological types around every corner?" She reassured me that she'd known me for 13 years then -- knew I had my head screwed on fairly straight; except for having a pathological parent which made me suseptible to narcissistic & sociopath types -- and that I probably was seeing, at least "the behaviors" of these kinds of people. The fact that I had experienced serious trauma because of one just a few years prior -- made me "hypervigilant" and she assured me, it was a good thing. She also told me my high intelligence was a good thing because I would now "pick apart things that set my alarm bells off. " This is one of the big reasons I simply cannot warm up to Obama. Knowing what I have learned about pathologicals -- he fits far too much of the profile for me. Sure, a lot of politicians do, but this isn't even the same man he was a month ago when Hi...