BARBARA'S TCHATZKAHS

by Kathy Krajco I have a question for anyone out there who can answer it. I would like to know why therapists - yes, therapists, not just preachers - think that a victimized person must forgive in order to heal. To keep things from getting all fogged up, we must be clear on what we mean by forgiveness. The word has a definite meaning: it is forgiving a portion of the debt incurred by the offender as your ante in a mutual act of reconciliation. But the word is suffering a terrible bout of bastardization these days, having the guts torn out of it by being used as vague codeword for somehow managing to "stop hungering and thirsting for justice," for somehow "erasing your anger." Woops, I forgot. Justice sounds too good in this context, I must call it revenge instead. But, anyway, please be sure to identify which kind of forgiveness you mean if you explain why therapists instruct their patients to forgive. A couple related questions, just to make sure we all heal good....

GET OUT YOUR BULLSH*T RADAR! With Annapolis coming, I feel this post from Kathy Krajco is very timely. Get your b.s. radar up everyone - there's already plenty of it flying around already. There's Condi "let's scr*w Israel" and Olmert "couldn't be more spineless if he was an earthworm" and then Abbas "I just don't get it..." And these are the people we are depending on to 'solve' the Middle East Crises? Spare me... (also for any victims/ survivors of Destructive Narcissistic abuse... keep reading. As a victim myself, I will say - what Kathy says here? is EXACTLY what retriggered my PTSD in 2004 and put me in a clinic for trauma for 2 weeks because of it. I did learn - DEFEND YOURSELF AND BE UNAFRAID TO TELL THE TRUTH) Self-Preservation Under Narcissistic Abuse by Kathy Krajco I don't see how it can be so difficult for many people to see what is so wrong about denying a person (or any sentient creature) the right to us...

How Jewish piety sabotages Jewish self-defense by Francisco Gil-White A well rounded social scientific explanation for why so many innocent Jews have been murdered throughout history, and continue to be murdered today, requires an understanding of the forces that cause non-Jews to kill, naturally, but also an understanding of those forces within the Jewish community that make their self-defense less effective than it could be. This series is concerned with the second set of questions. In Part 1, 2, 3, and 4 of this series I examined the ways in which a good many Jewish leaders sabotage Jewish self-defense. In this installment and the next I will address certain disadvantages of ordinary Jews themselves when it comes to dealing with anti-Jewish terrorist attacks. Given that there are many significant differences between religious and secular Jews, it has seemed useful to me to examine them separately, so in this piece I will consider certain negative consequences of Jewish religious...