BARBARA'S TCHATZKAHS

It seems there may be no justice for my late therapist, Kathryn Faughey; as you can see in the below article. This February it will be 3 years since Dr. Faughey was brutally and needlessly murdered by David Tarloff... and I am not over it. I don't think I ever will be. As Dr. Faughey said to me many times, "some things you don't get over. you adapt and move forward." So I can say, yes I have. I attempted to sit down and write a note to her husband about the 15 years of care she gave me many many times. I can't do it. (If you are reading this Mr. A. - I have tried a number of times in the last 3 years. I think it's just a form of continuing denial on my part and I apologize.) It took me months to remove her phone number from my cell and her email from my contacts.  And still many many times I have stopped and said to myself, "I need to call Dr. Faughey"... then I remember. I would guess this is my PTSD, which she diagnosed after years of my be...

VICTIM GETS NO JUSTICE - CASE THROWN OUT Via my victim's advocacy work I have met a few truly extraordinary people. People who, against the odds, fought to get back their dignity and come forward about the abuse they endured. People who have endured stigma, smear, false charges filed against them and attacks on their families and reputations. Coming forward about abuse of any kind is hard because of the "blame the victim" mentality in our society. Rape is extremely hard because often the victim's sexual history and personal ups and downs are part of a smear campaign by the rapist/ abuser and their friends, family and the defense's legal team. ( see this post I did yesterday about just such a situation.) One of these extraordinary people is Holly . I am priviledged to consider Holly a personal friend. Holly's blog is here and everyone should take a moment and read her story. For my Canadian readers, Holly is currently working to get a National Rape Crisi...