BARBARA'S TCHATZKAHS

I have never been able to experience intimacy without genuine emotion. I do not understand people who do that. I believe its exploitative of others. I learned in the last few years that many pathologicals: Narcissists & Sociopaths mostly, are truly capable of corrupting, abusing and using this. Tiger Woods, Steve Philips and all you others who abuse & use others for sex... you're not addicts - you're predators. The Deeper Meaning of Physical Intimacy by Rabbi Chaim Levine It has the potential for intense holiness and intense corruption, depending who's at the helm -- your soul or your ego. Did the title catch your attention? Why? There is something about this topic that sets off firecrackers in people's minds. Ad agencies use sex almost ubiquitously to prey on your pocketbooks -- they tie it together with selling minivans, french fries, mail delivery services, and computers. What's underneath all this hype is the reality that physical intimacy carries tre...

...and the courts are finally catching up. Wanted to add some thoughts from around the web about attitudes towards women, commitment, abuse, coercion and what happens when one uses others. (WARNING: STRONG SEXUAL LANGUAGE): Excerpt from a post on the harm of pornography and the expectations men have of women and women have of themselves, sexually: 1. currently a lot of porn hurts women in its production... if you use porn and it isn't drawn or written, there is a good chance your porn is NOT "eco-friendly," so don't kid yourself. deep throat, arguably the most mainstreamed porno ever, involved rape and abuse... i would hazard a guess and say that MOST porn involves some degree of coercing women, abusing women, and/or taking advantage of the prior abuse of women so even if you think that porn consumption has no negative effect on women, porn production very definitely has a negative effect on women. if you boycott shampoo that is tested on animals, you should probab...

From THE REAL BARACK OBAMA Klein: Women stoned protesting sex-every-four-days law. ‘Death to the slaves of the Christians,’ yells rowdy crowd pelting rocks Robert Nickelsberg/Getty Images for The New York Times Hundreds of Afghan women were reportedly pelted with stones today while protesting a law that gives husbands the right to demand sex with a wife every four days unless she is ill or would be physically harmed by intercourse, Aaron Klein, Jerusalem bureau chief at World Net Daily , reports. The law, passed last month, would legalize marital rape, according to critics. It also requires a wife to seek her husband’s permission to go outside in public. “We don’t want Taliban law,” said one female protester, referring to the fundamentalist Islamist movement that governed Afghanistan until the U.S. invasion following the 9-11 attacks. The law only applies to Shiite families in Afghanistan, who comprise about 10 to 20 percent of the country’s 30 million strong population. The law state...

What a country! And Barfy thinks we can TALK to these neaderthals? New Afghanistan law allows men to demand sex from wife every 4 days by Helen Kennedy A new Afghan law saying Shiite men can demand sex from their wives every four days and keep them indoors indefinitely is causing an uproar. Hillary Clinton's State Department is trying to force a repeal of a law more restrictive than even the old Taliban regime. "We're very concerned about these reports with regard to the legislation," said State Department spokesman Robert Wood. The passage of what some call "legalized rape" means American women have died fighting in Afghanistan to give men there the right to subjugate women. Clinton and Afghan President Hamid Karzai met privately Tuesday at The Hague, but Wood could not say if she pressed him to reverse the law he just signed. "She may have. I don't know," Wood said. "President Karzai is certainly well-aware of our views with regard to t...

Misogyny Moment for the end of the year... from SHAKESVILLE: I was wondering how you feel about Dennis Prager's contentio n that men are like animals in order to advance his argument that wives should submit sexually to their husbands even when they don't want to because men can't feel loved if they're not being fucked. (If you're a gay man, of course you don't even figure into Prager's heterocentrist equations, except insomuch as he makes no distinction that he's talking only about straight men; it is simply men whose "sexual nature is far closer to that of animals" and who know that their partners love them "first and foremost by [their] willingness to give [their] bod[ies] to him.") It must be thrilling to have such a prominent figure dedicate an entire column (and this is only Part One!) to coercing a woman to submit to you, irrespective of her desire, lest she risk your (totally justifiable) emotionally withdrawing from her, chea...

From STOP-OBAMA.ORG A week ago, Obama Democrats were telling us that a vote for a Republican was tantamount to a vote against modernity. Never mind the fallacious simile, suggesting that McCain was the kind of Republican to whom such charges applied. Obama Democrats are anti-intellectual by definition, or at best “fake” intellectual, and I don’t expect them to use their faculties of recall or historic reference. Implying that a vote for the most centrist candidate in the Primary, is a vote for the most retrograde Creationists and Anti-Abortionists, requires you be deliberately oblivious to the fact that only four years ago John Kerry was seriously considering nominating John McCain as his Democratic Vice Presidential running mate. IF YOU'RE ON AN AGGREGATOR - CLICK HERE TO VIEW THIS VIDEO. Well, now the GOP, or McCain, need not even bother answering the ignorance of Obama’s crowds as expressed in that ad. A new video, called Blue Balled, takes up where Obama Slut left off. Whoring ...

"Gee, I Wonder Why Women Get Raped?" Even as we condemn woman abuse & rape - we need to look more at our own behavior! Here's a thought provoking article on the objectification and subtle sexualization of men & women. This article was too good to pass up - Barbara by Leslie Goldman Anyone who doesn't live under a rock understands that companies, from perfumers to maternity apparel, use sex to sell their products. This we know and, for the majority of Americans, it's accepted. Not many of us write letters to the heads of television channels or editors-in-chief of magazines, decrying the oppression of women. Surely some do, but for rest, we generally just flip the page or change the channel when an ad fetishizing a faceless woman or showing her as nothing more than a vagina crosses our path. Sometimes, we don't even realize an ad is spewing subtle bursts of racism...or bat an eyelash when an anti-gay message is shoved down our throats (remember this Supe...

I'M IN BIG TROUBLE The rest of you are probably in the clear. Studies show that regular sex (with all due precautions taken) provides a host of surprising health benefits. Six Reasons to Have Sex Every Week By Temma Ehrenfeld Sex is good for adults. Indulging on a regular basis—at least once a week—is even better. Research links sex (with all safer-sex precautions taken) to an astonishing array of physiological benefits, from longevity to pain relief. Many studies don't address whether the health bonus comes from the act itself or from the corresponding emotional intimacy, but the bottom line is that getting physical has some great side effects—especially for women. Here are six ways that sex boosts your health: 1. It Fights Colds and Flu. Sexual intercourse once or twice a week raises the body's level of the immune-boosting antibody immunoglobin A by a third, according to research at Wilkes University in Pennsylvania. 2. It's a Beauty Treatment. In a study at the Royal...

LET'S TALK ABOUT SEX Oh, not me!! No. No. No. That's a taboo subject with me. But not Yehuda , obviously, in this week's edition of Haveil Havalim. Great work, Yehuda . (Barbara avoids all possible connotations of the word "JOB"... ahem). And thank you for the mention, of course. OY! (by the way - for those of you married or partnered - you might enjoy this one: 237 Reasons You Did Not Get Laid Last Night PLEASE CLICK HERE TO JBLOG ME

INSTANT MESSAGE STUD RETURNS Why oh why do these sex addicts, pervs, cheaters, liars and abusers lie? Or claim that the real victim was them? They get mad because someone caught them. They become righteously indignant that someone found out their little secret. And Damn It - someone had a tv camera or audio running to capture these lies. Nowadays - its the computer. Believe me, no matter how much you tell yourself you have deleted or erased something either from your own computer or a website? Its still there. Traces of it captured forever. And its not hard to find, people. I watched an NYPD Computer Technologist pull something out of what should have been cyber-oblivion 3 years ago. It took him all of 10 minutes. It took them even less time to verify that instant messages were not altered and where they came from, i.e. whose computers (IP traces) they came from. Scary. So Foley's back and Florida's pissed. Everyone's pissed because we found that what was being sa...