BARBARA'S TCHATZKAHS

by Emilio Karim Dabul There was a time centuries ago in Arab countries when intellectual introspection was common and the culture produced searching, self-critical scholarship in various arenas. That time is gone. Today, brave and questioning souls like Irshad Manji, who calls for an Islamic Reformation, receive death threats. Without the ability to look inward, Arab blame for problems is projected outward - meaning, at Israel and the U.S. That is very dangerous for the world. As an Arab-American, recent events have reminded me in very stark terms why introspection needs to return to the Arab world in a big way, as quickly as possible, as a prerequisite for anything resembling peace, in the Middle East or elsewhere, to be a real possibility. First, look at what Fatah just attempted to do regarding American victims of Palestinian terrorism. Because of the 1990 Anti-Terrorism Act, numerous lawsuits have been brought against Fatah and other Palestinian terrorist groups that have injured o...

As a victim & survivor myself, I know that these do not work with a hardened abuser, destructive narcissist, anti-social or sociopath. Abusers RARELY, if ever, change. They may be worth a try. However, I have made some comments to this "overbroad" and overly simplistic article to deal with Verbal Abuse. I also ask that everyone take a look at THIS ARTICLE as well. 3 strategies to avoid arguments. Well, the strategies to avoid arguments drew arguments ... so, I thought it best to respond for the sake of creating peace in the world .... (FYI - arguing with an abuser it not a fair argument. The abuser must win & will do so at ANY COST! Peace is the LAST thing on their minds! They only care about winning and 'being right.') I received the following note: "I have a very hard time accepting how you would encourage someone to accept verbal abuse. Whether or not the spouse erred in saying or doing something, that person still does not deserve to be degrade...