EVEN PAULA ZAHN Seems Paula Zahn and I were married to the "same guy." I haven't talked much about my marriage for the sake of my children but I will talk about it a bit more soon, in as polite as possible terms. Constructive abandonment is a horrible thing. Especially when the spouse doing it won't let go. You are basically trapped. An agunah. Mine wouldn't. And the abuse along with my disability was enough to made me suicidal. About 5 years into the abandonment I fell into an inappropriate relationship . Even though my husband and I were sharing a home (like Paula and her husband) we were not sharing a bed and hadn't for years. I called the couch my bed - which did wonders for my atypical M.S. (not) My ex tried to sue the individual I had the emotional affair with for " procurement ." He'd hacked my computer back when I didn't know much about internet privacy. I blocked that suit once. My ex has tried to hurt and embarass me li...