BARBARA'S TCHATZKAHS

How many of these Scott Petersons, O.J. Simpsons, Dennis Raders, Bruce Pardos, Drew Petersons, etc do we have to read about before people get: PSYCHOPATHS BLEND RIGHT IN!! It could be your neighbor, your friend, your co-worker, your spouse - these people all could have a secret life... perhaps not even criminal but amoral - that you have no idea about. None at all. No one is immune. NO ONE. A Boston medical student accused of targeting women who advertised exotic services on Craigslist was ordered held without bail Tuesday on charges that he sought to rob a masseuse, but bashed her in the head and shot her through the heart when she fought back. Philip Markoff, 22, a second-year medical student at Boston University, said nothing during a brief appearance Tuesday in Boston Municipal Court where he was ordered held on charges including murder, armed robbery and kidnapping. "Philip Markoff is not guilty of the charges. He has his family's support," said defense attorney J...

from Sugar & Spice I was reading an article in the newspaper today about the trial of the Missouri woman accused of contributing to the suicide of a 13 year old girl after she and her daughter and an assistant tormented the girl over a period of time . I thought to myself, "damn, it's a good thing I'm not a depressed 13 year old girl, or some folks who visit my blog would find themselves on the wrong side of the law," because the things that have been uttered here at this blog and others to folks who refuse to get in line behind the Obama pied piper parade are pretty amazing and not in a good way. This MySpace suicide case has been in the news a lot over the past week with the trial going on and I've been keeping track of it if for no other reason than everytime I open the newspaper each day, there's an update. Earlier, I decided to do a Google search to see if I could find a definition of sorts about the Federal description of Cyber Bullying, when I foun...

Start with denial. Abuse is such a horrid phenomenon that society and its delegates often choose to ignore it or to convert it into a more benign manifestation, typically by pathologizing the situation or the victim - rather than the perpetrator. Statistically, the majority of abuse victims are female and most abusers are male. Still, we should bear in mind that there are male victims and female offenders as well. Ideally, after a period of combined tutoring, talk therapy, and (anti-anxiety or antidepressant) medications, the survivor will self-mobilize and emerge from the experience more resilient and assertive and less gullible and self-deprecating. Victims of abuse are saddled with emotional baggage which often provokes even in the most experienced therapists reactions of helplessness, rage, fear and guilt. Countertransference is common: therapists of both genders identify with the victim and resent her for making them feel impotent and inadequate (for instance, in their role as ...

NOWAK - VICTIM OF TOO MUCH EMOTIONAL ABUSE? Before I get jumped on for being anti-male, let me say, yes -- Lisa Nowak has some serious mental problems. And no I am NOT giving the woman a pass here for what she did - criminal assault & robbery. But how did she get here? Just another crazy, jealous gal ? Hmmm.... don't think so. As an anti-domestic violence counselor, something seems fishy here. Smelly fish too. And not just that diaper Nowak was wearing. Granted, I see everything through the lens of my own experience. Don't most of us? So let me ask: Why isn't Bill Oefelein being questioned more closely? He admitted he was seeing Nowak and another woman. I have a horrifying feeling he was playing narcissistic headgames with Nowak and she flipped out. I have experienced observing someone flipping out when a narcissistic type plays games with them . It's not pretty at all. And there's no talking to the victim when they snap - while the narcissist just ...