IT'S TIME FOR MATCH GAME!
One of my childrens' favorite games is Uno. They have beat me numerous times on numerous ocassions. If you don't know this game it involves matching cards with the same color or same number together in a discard pile until you are down to one card or "UNO!"
With this 'matching system' in mind I present two articles. So much is at stake in Israel and the U.S. and with Islamofascism on the march... we need strong leaders and we don't have them!!
Israel is being used & re-abused by those who care more about their personal image than Israel. Hasn't she been through enough? So read and tell me... does this:
Abusive people typically think they are unique, really so different from other people that they don't have to follow the same rules everyone else does.
But rather than being unique, abusers have a lot in common with one another, including their patterns of thinking and behaving. The following are some of their characteristics:
Excuse Making
Instead of accepting full responsibility for his actions, the abuser tries to justify his behavior with excuses. For example: "My parents never loved me" or "My parents beat me" or "I had a bad day, and when I walked in and saw this mess, I lost my temper" or "I couldn't let her talk to me that way. There was nothing else I could do."
Blaming
The abuser shifts responsibility for his actions away from himself and onto others, a shift that allows him to justify his abuse because the other person supposedly "caused" his behavior.
For example: "If you would stay out of it while I am disciplining the kids, I could do it without hitting them." Or he may say, "She pushes my buttons." Statements like this are victim blaming. If he really had buttons she could push, she would push the one that says, "vacuum" instead the one that says, "berate me". God forbid you tell the truth about them! You will be called abusive for doing so.
Redefining
In a variation on the tactic of blaming, the abuser redefines the situation so that the problem is not with him but with others or with the outside world in general. For example, the abuser doesn't come home for dinner at 6 p.m. as he said he would; he comes home at 4 a.m. He says, "You're an awful cook anyway. Why should I come home to eat that stuff? I bet the kids wouldn't even eat it."
Success Fantasies
The abuser believes he would be rich, famous, or extremely successful if only other people weren't "holding me back." He uses this belief to justify his abuse. The abuser also puts other people down verbally as a way of making himself look superior. (sarcasm is a big one)
Lying
The abuser controls the situation by lying to control the information available. The abuser also may use lying to keep other people, including his victim, off-balance psychologically. For example, he tries to appear truthful when he's lying, he tries to look deceitful even when he's telling the truth, and sometimes he reveals himself in an obvious lie.
Assuming
Abusive people often assume they know what others are thinking or feeling. Their assumption allows them to justify their behavior because they "know" what the other person would think or do in a given situation. For example, "I knew you'd be mad because I went out for a beer after work, so I figured I might as well stay out and enjoy myself" or "I know you are out to get me so I had to defend myself."
Above the Rules
As mentioned earlier, an abuser generally believes he is better than other people and so does not have to follow the rules that ordinary people do. That attitude is typical of convicted criminals, too. Each inmate in a jail typically believes that while all the other inmates are criminals, he himself is not.
An abuser shows "above-the-rules" thinking when he says, for example, 'I don't need intervention. I'm different than those other men. Nobody has the right to question what I do in my family."
Making Fools of Others
The abuser combines tactics to manipulate others. The tactics include lying, upsetting the other person just to watch his or her reactions, and encouraging a fight between or among others. Or, he may try to charm the person he wants to manipulate, pretending a lot of interest or concern for that person in order to get on her or his good side.
Fragmentation
The abuser usually keeps his abusive behavior separate from the rest of his life. The separation is physical; for example, he will abuse family members but not people outside his home.
The separation is psychological; for example, the abuser attends church Sunday morning, sees his girlfriend Sunday afternoon and berates or beats his wife Sunday night. He sees no inconsistency in his behavior and feels justified in it.
Minimizing
The abuser ducks responsibility for his actions by trying to make them seem less important than they are. For example, "I didn't hit you that hard" or 'I only hit one of the kids. I could have hit them all" or "just get over it - you are fixated on it - move on."
Vagueness
Thinking and speaking vaguely lets the abuser avoid responsibility. For example, "I'm late because I had some things to do on the way home."
Anger Abusive people are not actually angrier than other people. However, they deliberately appear to be angry in order to control situations and people.
Power Plays
The abuser uses various tactics to power trip others. For instance, he walks out of the room when the victim is talking, or out-shouts the victim. He organizes other family members, friends or associates to "gang up" on the victim in shunning or criticizing her.
Playing Victim
Occasionally the abuser will pretend to be helpless or will act persecuted in order to manipulate others into helping him. Here, the abuser thinks that if he doesn't get what he wants, he is the victim; and he uses the disguise of victim to get back at or make fools of others.
Abusers will often claim to be the victim in order to avoid being held accountable by law enforcement. He may assert she was the one who was violent or crazy. He will display what are clearly defensive wounds, such as bite marks or scratch marks, and claim she "attacked" him.
Or he will declare that the physical marks on her were caused when he was trying to keep her from hurting herself. Another ploy is that she is stalking him or harrassing him.
Drama and Excitement
Abusive people often make the choice not to have close relationships with other people. They substitute drama and excitement for closeness. Abusive people find it exciting to watch others get angry, get into fights, or be in a state of general uproar. Often, they'll use a combination of tactics described earlier to set up a dramatic and exciting situation.
Closed Channel The abusive person does not tell much about himself and his real feelings. He is not open to new information about himself, either, such as insights into how others see him. He is secretive, close-minded, and self-righteous. He believes he is right in all situations.
Ownership
The abuser typically is very possessive. Moreover, he believes that anything he wants should be his, and he can do as he pleases with anything that is his. That attitude applies to people as well as to possessions. It justifies his controlling behavior, physically, verbally or emotionally hurting others, and taking things that belong to them.
Self-glorification The abuser usually thinks of himself as strong, superior, independent, self-sufficient, and very masculine. His picture of the ideal man often is the cowboy or adventurer type. When anyone says or does anything that doesn't fit his glorified self-image, the abuser takes it as an insult.
FROM THIS SITE
Sound like him?:
Olmert fingers army over Hizbullah conflict
The embattled Israeli prime minister, Ehud Olmert, told an inquiry he blamed the military for failings in the Lebanon war, according to testimony released today.
"I think the army disappointed itself to a large degree," he told the Winograd commission, which is investigating last year's costly and inconclusive war against Lebanon's Hizbullah guerrillas. "Something in the command and control concept did not meet expectations and undoubtedly led to a disparity between what we were capable of achieving and what we actually achieved," Mr Olmert told the inquiry.Zevulun Orlev, an MP from the opposition National Religious party, accused Mr Olmert of trying to evade responsibility by placing blame on the army. "He should take responsibility now for his failings and resign," Mr Orlev told reporters.
In an interim report last week, the government-appointed panel said Mr Olmert was guilty of "a serious failure in exercising judgment, responsibility and prudence" in deciding to go to war after Hizbullah seized two Israeli soldiers. Saying he was best placed to fix mistakes cited by the commission, Mr Olmert has weathered a protest rally attended by at least 100,000 people demanding his resignation and rejected a call from his own foreign minister, Tzipi Livni, to step down.
Mr Olmert told the inquiry that Lieutenant-General Dan Halutz, the chief of staff who has since resigned over the military's failings in the 34-day conflict, had told him the armed forces were strong "and ready to carry out any mission".
A prime minister, Mr Olmert said, could not be "a field commander" and had to rely on the military for expert assessments. The 89 pages of testimony were released 10 days after the commission severely criticised his handling of the initial stage of the war.
The especially harsh censure of Mr Olmert has prompted renewed calls for his resignation and cast a cloud over his political future.
During the fighting in July and August, the Israeli military failed to crush Hizbullah or stop the Iranian and Syrian-backed militant group from firing some 4,000 rockets into northern Israel and forcing 1 million residents into shelters. Around 1,200 people, including about 900 civilians, were killed in Lebanon, where Israeli planes pounded southern Beirut.
Mr Olmert faces the possible fracture of his coalition following a May 28 leadership election in the Labour party. Two top Labour candidates have threatened to end its political partnership with Mr Olmert's Kadima party over the war findings.
The prime minister added that Ms Livni, a possible challenger to Mr Olmert, had taken an active part in planning the war.
"There was not a single situation where a decision was made...that the foreign minister was not a part of," he said.ORIGINAL ARTICLE HERE
Almost all selfish, uncaring, egomaniacs will also do one more thing:
INSIST ON TELLING THEIR VERSION OF THE "TRUTH" TO ANYONE WHO WILL LISTEN.
They work these stories over a for a while until they come up with a watered down, minimized version full of holes and misstatements and glossed over facts to appear as victims, gain sympathy and support.
Thereby smearing and re-abusing those who stand up for the truth.
Bearing in mind what was said in the second article, is that what THIS WILL BE ALL ABOUT?
Hmmm......
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