A Day to Bare Our Souls - and Find Ourselves

WHAT BUSH IS THIS?

I am going to profusely apologize to my right wing friends before I start this post. I have a lot of respect for some of what they believe in and say and I will fight to the death their right to say it. You've taught me a lot. And my liberal friends, same with you - sorry I had to leave you all - you were just making me sick.

But I am getting so tired of hearing "what happened to 'Bring it on, Bush' or 'What Happened to Dead or Alive Bush'. There's the mounting disenchanment with Bush's policies, his lack of honesty, his spinelessness. So many of my friends are disappointed.

I tried to tell you in 2000. I tried to tell you again in 2002, 2003... ad naseum. That guy? was an ACT! a FARCE! Bush was the PNAC Puppetboy to put forward their world & oil domination agenda. His handlers told him how to act & what to say. Cheney had his hand up Bush's poopshute like he was Charlie McCarthy.

Now the party is coming to an end. Guys like Karl the Traitor Rove, aka Turdblossom and Senator Trent I Gotta Get Out of Here Before the Lobbying Laws Take Hold Lott are jumping ship. Its slowing down, there's leaks in the hull, the bilge pumps aren't working and now the REAL Bush is showing. I tried to tell you but, why should you believe me - you needed to see it for yourself.

That's what the disordered are like. The abusers, the malignant, the shallow and empty. They can keep up the act for a while - even a few years - then little by little they get comfortable and figure 'screw it, I am gonna relax and be me.' The carefully constructed mask, the lure, the come on... starts to crumble. You start to see the real person and think "WTF! Who IS is this person?" There's treatment for the depression you will feel, so don't feel hopeless.

I have said to my friends many times that I don't know who my ex-husband is. He started to change about 6-7 years into the marriage and when I became ill and then the kids came along, the remnants of the facade went POOF! Who this real person is I have no idea. Like many many many people who are victimized, I don't know who he is. He's a stranger. And I had his children! I understand your pain, believe me. I've been fooled many times... why do you think I am agorophobic now?

There's those snakes at Annapolis - Bush, Abbas, Olmert... it's a sick cluster ***k on all of us. The lemmings continue to believe its those horrible JOOZ. There can be Neo-Liberals just like there are Neocons, campers!

So my right wing friends, I understand. You were duped. I don't know what to tell you other than stick to what you believe in and your OWN values. Don't hitch your star to people who are so mercurial and can't be trusted. Even if I don't agree with you - at least you can look yourself in the mirror.

I don't have time for masks myself. Those who know me will vouch that I'm not a shallow person. No matter what, I promise I will respect you in the morning.


Demolishing the Simplistic Stereotype of Malignant Narcissism
by Kathy Krajco

Here's a case study of a narcissist that demolishes the simplistic stereotype of the corporate executive or the snobby debutante.

Let's call him Jack. You never see Jack in anything but a T-shirt and blue jeans.

When he and his wife and kids moved in next door a couple years ago, he seemed liked a regular guy, a hard-working man. He had beautiful long, blonde hair reminiscent of the hippy culture. It was full and clean and looked like it had been washed and groomed every day. His yard looked just as good.

But then almost overnight, he changed. In fact, you almost thought he was a different person. He cut his hair. He never washed it now. He looked seedy now. And so did his gone-to-seed back yard.

That should be red alert number 1:

it shows that the man he appeared to be before was a total phony.

You knew Jack's comings and goings now, because he would roar in and out of his driveway in his big, suped-up pickup truck with the mag wheels. Obviously, he was often leaving home in a rage and letting the whole neighborhood know it.

Attention getting behavior.

Roaring in and out, in and out, in and out, five or six times an evening. You know what that that means, especially after you notice him falling out of his truck a few times.

He's about 35-40 years old, but he drives like a kid with 17-year-old hormones. You know - "Look, Ma! I'm a stud!"

Attention getting behavior.

In fact, he drives so wildly that it never ceases to amaze you: he drives like a maniac. And since you know he's falling-down drunk behind the wheel half the time, you wonder who his friends on the local police force are.

But then you discover that he only drives that way to the end of the block.

Since it's just for the attention of his wife and neighbors, there is no need to continue roaring past that point.

When he runs over your tree or fence or destroys your lawn by spinning out in it and you call him on the phone, you are stunned by the sound of his voice. He sounds so polite, you picture a business executive, not that dirtball next door. Promises, promises.

Then he just goes and destroys your property some more.

Who says narcissists have no sense of humor?

Though he has a rap sheet a mile long, he even fools the cops. They believe his story about these affairs and warn the victims, who have never been in trouble with the law before, to watch out or they will be facing charges.

So, no wonder he can con a psychiatrist. He's been practicing since he was six.

What finally gives those cops a clue? Sheer luck. One day another drunk runs off the road and demolishes Jack's parked pickup truck. A crowd gathers. The police arrive. Jack is so enraptured by all this attention that he bothers the police constantly to place himself center stage for the ceremonies.

His expressions of grief over his pickup truck remind one of the keening over the dead that you see women do in some cultures. Oh, woe is him! Your hatred for Jack suddenly melts at the pathetic sight of him sucking attention this way and sucking up to one police officer after another in search of a little attention. But you notice his cunning in his effort to make it a self-fulfulling prophesy by telling them how nice he thinks they are being to him.

They are just having jaw drops, and the neighbors are standing around with expressionless faces, not saying a word.

The first wife and kids disappeared one day, so he got another. The second honeymoon was shorter than the first. You could hear him roaring abuse at her at 4 AM in the kitchen every Saturday. There'd be about 30 seconds of silence, then another roared command. Then about 30 seconds of silence, and another roared command. Your imagination went wild. When it began to look like she might leave too, he started threatening suicide.

He discovered that that got him oodles of attention.

Wow! He could get an ambulance ride to the County Home! What boy wouldn't LOVE that? There they would dry him out and give him lots and lots of attention for a few days. All for free.

His second Mamma left now too. So now he just got blind drunk and called the ambulance himself when his need for attention became desperate. Eventually, however, the City refused to send the ambulance for him anymore.

So, he took to knocking on the doors of neighbors he hadn't yet made enemies of, telling them his phone was disconnected and that he needed an ambulance.

That worked a few times too. But then the City began question ambulance callers from that neighborhood to make sure that an ambulance call wasn't just another one of his stunts for attention at the County Home on the taxpayer's expense.

The clinicians there didn't recognize Narcissistic Personality Disorder in Jack, because he doesn't fit their stereotype, so they thought he was just an antisocial drunk. They never did anything but dry him out, talk to him, and ship him back home a few days later. Once they were bored with him, they didn't want him anymore.

So, what was this poor, desperate Jack-Narcissist to do for attention? Ready for a good one?

At about 7 AM one morning, Jack walked into a tavern he'd frequented daily for years, and - not even bothering to wear a mask - pulled a knife on the proprietor and demanded money from the cash register.

I mean, let's not even TRY to get away with a crime! He goes to a bar at a time when the cash register contains nothing but about $25 in change to start the next day's business with and holds up someone who knows him by name?

What about the safe? Why wasn't he interested in the money in THAT?

Too obvious, ain't it? Again, it was all just to get attention. And it got him the attention he needed. For awhile.

SOURCE: Demolishing the Simplistic Stereotype of Malignant Narcissism